The (Modern Day)Proverbs 31 Woman


I have been doing some soul searching and some research on becoming a better wife/mother and looking at Bible verses that could assist me with this. After reading a post by Lisa Preuett here and loving how she modernized the famous scripture.  I thought I would use her version to create one more specific to my life.


Are you familiar with the Proverbs 31 woman in the Bible? She is perfect, has the best husband and kids, her marriage is perfect and her home is always in a perfectly organised condition – you know, like the one on tv that protects her kids from germs and always feeds them healthy food, and rubs her husband’s back after a long hard day at work.  I long to be like her but I also have to be more realistic.  I hope that like me this will help you to strive to be more like her, but to also make you realise that in so many ways you can give her a run for her money.

“And in case you didn’t already know, this woman in Proverbs 31 was NOT a real woman! This passage of scripture is a portrayal of virtuous qualities to be found in a godly woman.” –  Lisa Preuett

Proverbs 31:10-31

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

A woman who truly seeks after God is rare in today’s world as mentioned by Lisa in her post and her net worth would definitely be listed in the Forbes magazine…

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

He liked you, saw potential in you and knew that no one could run a household better than you.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Consider your husband in everything you do and never talk badly about him to anyone. No matter his faults and flaws.  So stop moaning about his socks on the floor, lack of romance etc etc  (Please note, if he abuses you or beats you, you must speak out – because a real man would never do that to his woman anyway)

She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

She purchases things for her home wisely and creates a warm atmosphere for her family. – Quoted directly from Lisa’s post

She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

She drives to the shops and wholesalers to hunt bargains for her family.  She also orders low prices items from places like Takealotetc, and looks for the best deals.

She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.

She gets up in the middle of the night to care for a sick toddler who just puked all over the bed #IDIDTHISJUSTTHEOTHERDAY. When the cellphone alarm goes off she still fixes breakfast for the rest of her brood, packs lunches and drives them to school. Servant girls?? Those would be her children who are assigned daily chores – in my case this is Cole my eldest, he really helps me a lot and I am slowly trying to train Maxx to help me too.

She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

She thinks before she makes big purchases and finds ways to multiply the little that she has.

She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.

She strategically puts in a movie for her kids while she cleans the toilet, does a load of laundry, washes the dishes and irons the clothes. If there’s time left over she’ll quietly slip away to go to the bathroom for a few minutes of peace to herself. – Tweaked form Lisa’s version but definitely deserves an “AMEN”

She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

She works hard at the office and is working towards that promotion so that she can earn more, she also sleeps with one eye open, just to make sure that everyone is safe and in case she needs to jump up to rescue a baby that is having a nightmare or wants something to drink.

In her hands she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

If you remember the skills that were taught to you during your needlework lessons in the 90s then Big-Ups to you!!! But if she’s like most (or rather me), she frantically sews a button on her son’s only clean pair of pants 15 minutes before he heads out the door for school. Anything requiring more, she asks someone else (luckily my SIL is a seamstress).  She does look for easy DIY projects on Pinterest .

She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.

She supports local charities or soup kitchens and is always there to offer some sort of help to friends and family.

When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

She makes sure that he kids are dressed warmly in winter and also buys out of season sale clothing in advance for the next year…can we all say “Woolies Sale”!!

She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

She looks around for deals at Mr Price Home or Sheet Street when the need arises to by new bedding. She shops for clothes anywhere that suits her family’s tight budget.

Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

Her husband walks into work feeling loved because he had a date with his wife last night. He brags on his wife to his buddies during his lunch meeting.  – Thanks Lisa, I am still working on this ‘Date Night’ thing.

She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

She seeks ideas on the web and makes these for her family (hoping that it won’t end in an epic fail).  Some ladies are brilliant and can actually make a living out of their creations.

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

She may physically be exhausted but her inner strength comes from God. She can laugh at the days to come (and often laughs at herself) because her confidence and hope come from the Lord. – Once again directly quoted from LP’s post, but it is so true and I did not want to change that in any way.

She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

After many moments of humility, she graciously gains wisdom. Her time in prayer and God’s word overflows from her heart when she instructs her children. – OOOH CHILE, my tongue is my problem and I really have to learn to watch what I say, but I know that with practice I can do it.

She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

She makes sure the nappies don’t run out, keeps groceries stocked in the fridge, attempts to keep the never-ending laundry caught up and oversees homework when she’d rather collapse on the couch and take a much deserved nap, or watch an episode of The Fixer or KUWTK. – Sound’s familiar??? The story of my life, luckily I no longer have to buy nappies..whoop whoop

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.

When her kids get up, they plead, ” Mommy…..can we have porridge please!” Her husband quickly kisses her while rushing out the door whispering, “I love you!”

Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.

Many women hold masters degrees and will walk into top corporate company rocking their LBs and business suits. But you are just as important,sporting your PJ’s with spit-up smeared on the front, rocking your little ones and reading them a story. And kudos to all the mom’s who work, look after kids and are still single parents too.  Women, in general, are amazing!

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Although I do agree that feeding your soul and inner beauty if more important…I do believe that when a woman takes care of her outward appearance she automatically feels good and more confident.  And if you are like me, and you don’t wear lots of makeup – some lipgloss and mascara does wonders…

Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Her hard work will pay off in the end because she has loved deeply through thick and thin. No matter what others say, God knows and sees everything she does and loves her relentlessly. – AMEN to that


I hope that this inspires women, it definitely made me think about a lot of things.

Have a great day everyone!


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